Getting an Ex Back If You Were the One Who Dumped Him

Getting an ex back is hard if you were the one being dumped.  But imagine how you would feel if you were the one who did the dumping?  That is the position that Marilyn found herself in and she had to go about getting an ex back.

Marilyn's so called friend Laura told her that her boyfriend Jerry had been sleeping with another woman.  Without verifying the information or even asking Jerry about it, Marilyn confronted Jerry and accused him of having an affair.  This took Jerry by complete surprise because he had no inkling that the rumor was circulating, and he didn't do a good job of defending himself.  Marilyn unceremoniously dumped him.

A few days later, Marilyn found out that Laura had been lying for her own jealous, petty reasons.  Now Marilyn was in a quandary.  Getting an ex back was important to her, but she also wanted to save face. 

Marilyn called up Jerry and explained what had happened.  But Jerry was in no mood to take her back.  Marilyn had hurt him by not trusting him and not even talking things over with him. 

Getting an ex back took all of Marilyn's wiles. 

First of all, Marilyn wrote Jerry a long letter of apology.  She took responsibility for what happened and promised that it would never happen again.  She reminded Jerry that they had a long history together and that they had shared some beautiful times.  She said that she didn't want to throw all of that away.  She told him that the reason she acted the way she did was because she loved him and couldn't stand the though of his being with another woman.  The thought of losing him forever was painful.

After she had mailed the letter, she didn't bother him with constant texts or phone calls.  She figured that getting an ex back after a situation like this one required that she give Jerry his space.

When she did run into Jerry, she was as nice as she could be.  She worked positive memories into the conversation casually.  She didn't apologize any further though.  She had told him both in person and in writing that she was sorry and let it go at that. 

One day, Marilyn got tickets for Jerry's favorite band, which was in town for one concert only.  She asked Jerry to go with her "just as friends."  In this way, she opened the door to a future relationship without crowding him. 

Getting an ex back after you have behaved badly and dumped him is difficult.  Not only do you have the embarrassment of having to apologize, but also you almost have to start from scratch again on the relationship.  Rebuilding the trust is a key component in this period.

Jerry and Marilyn did eventually get back together.  Jerry came to see that Marilyn's outburst was the act of a jealous woman who deeply loved him.  He saw it as a mistake that they could both grow from.  Their relationship became stronger than ever.

Marilyn took the right approach to getting an ex back.